There are some people whose conversations with me are protected. I don't publicize these contacts, because they prefer their anonymity. These are real people. Some would say they are "famous" people, but I have always felt that fame is put upon you. If you are fortunate enough to be noticed by others, then fame comes. However, the people who want the fame, regret it later. They can't lead a "normal" life without being stopped by their fans wanting an autograph or a picture with them. No trips to the grocery store for them. Some people develop paranoia because of the fame. Some use disguises to get around town. And some just deal with it. In some circles, I have had to deal with it, too. People have recognized me from my TV appearances, stage work, or films. I just smile and say thank you. I know some "famous" people who just want to be left alone. They do their work, but they have lives outside work. Or at least, they try to do.
One such person is a rather famous actor and businesswoman. We met up online. At first, I was skeptical. Was it really her? After I posed some questions that only she could answer, I realized that she was who she said she was. We talked about her family, and how she was trying to keep her family together. She was having a hard time dealing with fame. I shared with her that she was not famous. It was only a label put on her. Putting things in perspective helped her.
Another person is a very famous person worldwide. He has been in the news his entire life. The pressure he has been in is unimaginable to the average person. He just wanted to talk to a common person, and he found me. He suggested we text. Once again, I was skeptical of his identity. I had his phone number, and I called it. His number was legitimate. It was him. We talked about his family issues. He actually offered a job to me, but I had to tell him that I was too old to help him. He was very kind.
Another person has been a very famous artist and singer. I have written about her before, but just to say that I had her private phone number and address. I was sworn to secrecy not to give it out to anyone. Despite our differences later in life, she accepted my apology a few years ago, and we have been on speaking terms again.
Still another person has been a pretty famous actress and artist. I was her confidant with her personal life. I wrote about her earlier, too. In her case, I told her early on that I couldn't judge her for what she did professionally, and that she could trust me to just be her friend.
I like to think that people can trust me to not divulge things that could hurt them professionally. They can, because I am very protective of them. They are just people like you or me. They might have more money than most people, but money doesn't always buy happiness. The key to all of this is for you to be a good listener. Try to find common ground with them and don't be in awe of them. Just listen.
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